I know what its like to feel broken and having the idea of “fixing” yourself feel impossible. With adoption, jail, addiction, shame, causing harm, and grief. I’ve realized along the way I wasn’t the only one.

I’ve known that feeling of being deep in my pain and completely alone inside. Wanting help, but frozen at the thought of asking for it. Paralyzed at the idea of letting someone in. I’ve had to get comfortable with the grief of outgrowing who I used to be. And I want that for the men I work with.

I have been cooked in many of life’s initiatory fires and found two very important pillars. Courage and connection. I have found that with those two things in place anything is possible.

Adoption has taught me how valuable attachment is and that the blueprint we take on in our formative years reflects our adult relationships.

My understanding of the orphan (that lives in all of us) cuts deep. I lived it as a felt experience for a lot of my life. Overthinking relationships by trying to do the right thing or not do the wrong thing. Constantly scared of doing the wrong thing and losing connection. I exercised the muscle of who I thought others wanted me to be and didn’t develop a clear sense of who I was or what I stood for.

What I didn’t know for a long time was how possible it is to change that blueprint and have solid and healthy relationships. With the proper dedication and development you can create the life you want. The journey we will embark on is one of soul, not one of obsessive progress to rid you of discomfort.

After going on my own journey and helping many men, what I can say with absolute clarity is that you can have the relationships you want while living the life that is true for you.

I guide men because I refuse to let my imperfection stop me from moving towards my calling.
I help men step into the bold action required in their becoming.
I help men stay wildly themselves.
Regardless of conditioning.
Regardless of judgements.
Regardless of who doubts you.

I guide men not as a teacher with all of the answers. But as a man who has faced my fires, let them cook me, and stayed awake.